Every single day, we’re presented with countless chances to make a positive impact. These opportunities aren’t always grand gestures; sometimes, it’s something as small as holding a door open for someone or offering a genuine smile. We know these simple acts of kindness can brighten someone’s day and make a difference. Yet, how often do we let those moments slip by without taking action?

1 | Why Tiny Acts Matter More Than You Think

The next time you miss one of these opportunities, take a moment to reflect. Ask yourself: “What could I have done differently in that situation to make it better?” You’ll quickly find that you have a clear idea of what you could have said or done.

2 | The Missed-Moment Reset – 3 Steps in 30 Seconds

1. Pause — Notice the regret: “I could have helped.”

2. Replay — Ask, “What tiny action or word would have made that moment better?”

3. Prime — Tell yourself, “Next time I see that cue, I act.”
   Why it works: You’re training the Reticular Activating System to flag the cue and the pre-decided response.

Now, here’s the key to making a lasting change: once you have that idea, tell yourself to remember it. Say something like, “Remind me to take action next time an opportunity like that appears.” By consciously directing your attention to this goal, you’re training your mind to be more aware. Your focus dictates your reality, and by focusing on these small, positive actions, you’ll find yourself making a habit of them. It’s a simple exercise, but it’s one that can truly transform not just your day, but the days of those around you.

3 | Real-World Example

Missed Cue: Coworker drops papers in the hallway; you keep walking.
Replay: “I would’ve knelt, gathered the stack, and said, ‘Got you.’”
Prime: “If I see someone juggling too much, I offer hands—no hesitation.”

4 | Mini Practice — One-Lens Day

Choose one cue to watch for all day—e.g., anyone carrying heavy items. Every time it appears, intervene. By sunset, that single act will feel instinctive.